People see a couple who have built a life together, holidays, the routines, the family and the moments when things are good. They don't see the conversations that never happen, where you may feel unheard, misunderstood or unable to explain what you actually need. It could be the same argument without ever reaching a conclusion as if you’re speaking different languages.
Couples can become caught in patterns where each person's response reinforces the other's. One withdraws, the other pursues. One becomes defensive, the other feels unheard. Without a safe space to slow the pattern down, it can become increasingly difficult to see what is happening between you. Psychotherapy creates a space for both people to feel heard and understood without having to win the conversation.
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